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Flip Fantasia and Why I Can Make a Movie

photo by Alex di Suervo

photo by Alex di Suervo

Well that was just about the most exciting week of my life.  I just finished producing and directing my first short film, called “Flip Fantasia.”  It’s about four guys and a dead girl, about love and death and what happens when your heart breaks and grows three sizes that day.  It’s a love letter to NYC and an homage to all my favorite films (or as many as I could fit in there) and a peek into what I understand about suffering.

So what in the hell qualifies me to direct a film?  Basically nothing, really, except that I spent my entire young life going to every weird arty, what-I-thought worthy, edge cutting piece of gorgeousness that I could find in NY.  I sought out art in every form: whether it was going to hear Ravi Shankar at Lincoln Center, or going to see the Whirling Dervishes at Town Hall, or going to see Pina Bauch and Robert Wilson at BAM, E.L. Kirchner at the Neue Gallery,  Barbara Kruger at MOMA, some punk band at CBGB’s, Shawn Colvin at Carnegie Hall, Selected Shorts at Symphony Space, movies at Film Forum, Marlene Dumas at The New Museum, or the hundreds of other shows I saw.  NYC was my education, in a way.

In film, I was blown away by the Apu Trilogy by Satyajit Ray when I was 25.  Watching that I was hit hard by how film could create an connective and yet transcending human experience.  I also became a huge Francois Truffaut fan, gobbling up the Alain Delain series like an animal.  In a case of “From the sublime to the ridiculous,” I also loved the timing of Blake Edwards’ SOB and Victor Victoria, the incredible comic performances in Tootsie and the hilarious surrealism of Living in Oblivion.

My favorite artist is Laurie Anderson.  Most people have never heard of her but she’s awesome. Her kind of off beat storytelling is right up my alley.  I am pretty sure I have seen every performance she brought to the states post 1997, when I discovered her.  She is hard to pin down, too.  Performance artist doesn’t really cover everything she is.  She’s a musician, a poet, a writer, a storyteller, a performer, and an artist.  Why not?

So what is “Flip Fantasia”? Well it’s kind of a combination of these influences.  It’s funny, and heart breaking, surreal, and spiritual.  It’s full of color and pain.  It’s everything I love.

It’s not like I just pulled it out of my ass.  I studied directing with the late Curt Dempster, the artistic director of Ensemble Studio Theater.  After that I wrote and directed Mona7, a performance art piece that I did in NYC which was totally my vision.  Here is a picture from when Mona becomes one with the universe.  Sadly, my co-director took my vision and got herself a grant from Dance Theater Workshop without giving me any credit.  Not cool, but water under the bridge.  It was a long time ago.  I know it was my vision and I loved making it with her.  Too bad she didn’t know how to be a friend, that’s all.

Mona7

 

 

 

 

 

I also studied painting in the late 90′s early 2000′s with Nancy Chunn at the School of Visual Arts, then International Literature at NYU, then creative art therapy and fairy tales at The New School.  As you might know I just wrote a whole book called Murdering My Youth which will come out eventually.  Who knows, I may just turn it into a movie.  So doing something like a short film isn’t really a total shock.  I guess you could say my whole life has led up to this.  I’m an artist.  I make things.

That said, I believe all the art I have done (except my postcards) is totally collaborative.  I’ve worked with the great videographer Tal Yardan for Mona7, and the amazing producer and musician George Walker Petit for my album…  frankly, every movie, play, or TV show I have ever done is a collaboration with the director, writer and other actors, whether it’s with the writer David Ives “The Red Address,” the director Richard Benjamin on “My Favorite Year,” or Michael Knight on “All My Children.”  Making a piece of art that requires more than one person requires collaboration.  I have a great love and respect for it.  All that matters is that everyone brings their passion to the table.

Eden Marryshow at Smeg

For “Flip” I had the great luck to find Alex di Suvero to be my Director of Photography.  He’s got an amazing ability to find the beauty in the awful, which was the task I set before him.  I am thrilled with what we have created together.

Here is a photo of the character “Smeg” played by Eden Marryshow, who, as you might guess, is a seeker.

That’s my arm on the left.

One thing I learned about film making is that it requires an understanding and a feel for ALL the arts.  You HAVE to know painting, and music, and literature AND film.  If you don’t, you are really missing out on what film can be.  Well, let’s not put the cart before the horse.  I still have to edit the damn thing.  Oh yeah, and let’s not forget I LIVE with a filmmaker, and associate produced HIS first feature, so I’ve had a little crash course, you might say.

But I wanted you to know all this about me, so that you can see this film as something that is a part of who I am, because it is.  It is perhaps the most intimate piece of work I have ever made.  I hope you will like it.

Here I am with DP Alex di Suvero, and AC Nikita Carpenter in SOHO, NYC.

Here I am with DP Alex di Suvero, and AC Nikita Carpenter in SOHO, NYC.

 

 

 

 

 

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Fun at the 2013 Daytime Emmys

Well first I had to get dressed and all dolled up, which is always nerve racking, but luckily I had the help of Genevieve Garner who did this beautiful up do and my makeup!

40th Annual Daytime Entertaimment Emmy Awards - Arrivals

Hair and Makeup and photos by Genevieve Garner

Hair and Makeup and photos by Genevieve Garner

Special thanks to Sabra Temple for helping pic out an amazing dress by Tom Ford! Shoes are by Charles David, earings by Alexis Bittar, and clutch by Tasha at Nordstroms.

I get my hair color at Kim Vo now.  He’s amazing!

 

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Ring by Ariella.

 

 

Screen Shot 2013-06-17 at 5.09.16 PMWith Denyse and Sal on the red carpet

 

You can also find these awesome earings at Nordstroms.

 

 

 

When we at last we walked the red carpet, it was so crowded we had to wait about 30 minutes to get to the front of the line, then we kept getting bumped for Dr. Oz and Dr. Drew and their crew to come in!  I was standing with Sal Stowers and Denyse Tonyze so we amused ourselves by taking VINE videos and pictures for Instagram which we tweeted out like mad because we are just nuts that way.

Then we met up with a bunch of the other gals and compared our shoes (and the pain they were inflicting) and what’s on our home screens!

(I now have a photo of Tiny Fay saying “You know what? Bitches get stuff done.”)

Me and Jon

 

But the very BEST part of the evening was seeing my man Jon arrive.  He looked so handsome… and he’s just my favorite person in the whole world.

Rock Star Nails

 

 

Forgot to mention the nails! Got them done at Chi Nail Bar in Beverly Hills.  Ask for Jennie! They are in “rock star” glitter.  A rose gold color!  Did my toes the same!

If you like nail art, follow them on Instagram!  Lots of fun inspiration there….

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Real Beauty

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A lot of people ask me how I take care of my skin. It’s kind of a long answer, so hang with me. To begin with, I think feeling beautiful is as much a matter of how you think about how you look as it is the condition of your pores. This is not a commercial for any product, by the way, but I think Dove has made a pretty interesting commercial that touches on the power of perspective.

Feeling beautiful is a lot about perspective.  When you look in the mirror, you can contemplate all your worst qualities, or you can appreciate your best.  Frankly, there are days when I consider getting a nose job, an eye job, and having the fat sucked out from under my chin all in one fell blow.  At 43, I am wondering when is the appropriate time to have my neck lifted, and who will be the genius who takes all my money when s/he discovers the under eye cream that will stop the insanity happening there.  Other days, I think I see my face changing in ways I never considered.  My cheekbones are getting higher, my eyes are getting deeper, and (is it possible?) my nose is getting thinner.  Some days, I look in the mirror and see my mother’s face staring right back at me. Those days are the ones I go screaming off into the world.

“OH MY GOD I LOOK LIKE MY MOTHER!!!!”

Me in Laguna

On a different angle, I was at dinner the other night, with two men and two women.  We were talking about men who get “work done.”  They said, “Oh, that’s so crazy!  Men shouldn’t do that, men AGE!” as if they were in a separate category.  Not one to leave that hanging I said, “Uh, by the way, WOMEN AGE TOO!”  The problem is, in our culture we tend to equate youth with beauty, especially when it comes to women.  This sets up a system of belief that men just get more handsome as they “mature” into their “wiser years” and women just turn into bitchy old crones.  Fun.

Then there is the issue of photoshopping.  Because I have been in show business since I was a child, I can tell you that “touching up” a photo has been in practice practically since the damn thing first “clicked” a shot.  They used to take a tool that looked like a thin knife and scrape the original print to remove the areas that needed “refining” shall we say.  Even in the 1970′s, when movie stars and models had more wrinkles than ever, actors had their headshot’s “touched up.”  This was to present a particular image to the world, an image of a heightened reality that would help us to fantasize.  Fantasy is a big part of show business.

Aas I get older, I appreciate this aspect more and more.  Until very recently, I felt like keeping certain facts to myself was wrong, and even potentially hurtful to others.  I liked pulling back the curtain on the fantasy world so that normal people wouldn’t feel “less than” or talked down to.  However, there are places where knowing everything about someone who is in the public eye simply doesn’t serve the ultimate function of the fantasy of show business.

That said, everyone deserves to feel beautiful about themselves.  Since I have worked hard on learning how to take care of my skin, who am I to keep this information to myself?  So here goes.  The secret to great skin.

1) Dudes, and dudesses…. you gotta stay out of the sun.  The sun is NOT your friend.  Not anymore.  Your nice tan is going to turn into wrinkles and brown spots later in life, I promise you.  It  did with me.  I have tried a lot of creams to get the spots off but the most effective full removal is by having a laser treatment, like a photo facial.  Bottom line: WEAR SUNSCREEN EVERY DAY that has a high ZINC OXIDE percentage in it.  If it doesn’t, you may be protecting your skin from skin cancer, but not brown spots.

2) YOU MUST DRINK A LOT OF WATER.  I’m not kidding.  Like, a liter or TWO EVERY DAY.  This is what Padma Lakshmi does and she looks amazing.  (Try her recipe for making water more “sexy”) It will flush out the toxins which lead to damaged skin and breakouts, but will also keep your skin hydrated.  If you like to drink alcohol (which I do) drink one glass of water to every glass of wine ON TOP of the liter or two of water a day.  If you HATE water, try iced green tea instead.  It’s refreshing and you can spice it up however you like it.  Much better than sodas or sugary “health” drinks, I promise you.

3) DO NOT SMOKE.  Not even a little.  When I use a cigarette as a character I never inhale and it still makes me feel sick.  Neither inhaled smoke or second hand smoke is good for you or your skin.  Might as well hang around the tail pipe of a diesel truck.  Wanna get real old, real fast and then get cancer? Then go ahead and smoke, it’s your life, but don’t say I didn’t warn ya.

4) Your skin care needs to take your age into consideration.  If you are 20 years old, you don’t need the same products as a 40 year old.  You DO need sunscreen, water, and shouldn’t smoke.  That applies to everyone.  Young products for young people.  I used Clinique when I was growing up and I still think it’s a very nice product line for teens into your 20′s.  The best products line if you are in your 30′s into your 40′s (in my opinion) is Skincuticals, but don’t use a heavy nigh moisturizer if you don’t need it.  It will cause breakouts.

5) Get some Vitamin C in and on you.  I used Skincuticals vitamin C serum for years and now I use the Phloretin CF.  Vitamin C is awesome for your skin.  I swear by Emergen-C, which is a powdered packet of stuff you add to water.  It gives me energy and a nice skin flush.  You can also use less expensive Vitamin C serums like this one by Beauty Without Cruelty, or make your own!

5) Get regular facials.  Your skin will thank you.  I have tried every type of facial out there but in my 30′s my favorite was getting something at Bliss, in particular the Triple Oxygen Facial.  Now that I am a bit older, I like getting microdermabrasion, light glycolic peels, and oxygen sprays. (Make sure if you get microdermabrasion to NOT use a Retin-A product at least a week before you go or you could end up with chemical burns, like I did.) I have never done a chemical peel because they freak me out.  I also don’t use Retin-A because it also freaks me out.  That said, today may be the day.  Note: I try and have professional facials every few months, and do my own little routine at home in-between times.  This saves me a fair amount of dough.  Either way, give yourself a home or professional facial at least every four weeks.

6) Exfoliate.  Yep, it works.  Don’t scrub your face off, just find a scrub that has either a very fine grain, like Remede Sweep, or use a glycolic facial wash.  Personally, I do both.  I use the wash once every day and the sweep every three days or so.  Getting the crap off your face is the point.  I also use one of those electronic brushes, like Clarisonic, when I’ve been wearing a lot of makeup.  These really help.  They aren’t cheap, but they last for up to five years or longer.  All you have to do is buy a new brush head from time to time.  You gotta get the dirt and grime OFF, that’s the point, but don’t rub until you are red, that is hurting your skin.

7) Do a basic routine in the morning and at night…. EVERY DAY.  Wash your face, use a toner, add a serum, moisturize, then put on sunblock…. all before you put your makeup on (if you wear makeup).  Wash, tone, and moisturize EVERY NIGHT.  Every skin has different needs (oily, dry, combo, acne, etc) and we all live in different climates (dry, humid, hot, cold) so you need to adjust for that.  There are great products at every price point and philosophy, believe me, but if you don’t use them, they don’t have a chance to work!  My friends who use Proactiv swear by it.

8) You are what you eat.  Check out Dr Jessica Wu’s book FEED YOUR FACE on this topic for further reading, but your common sense knows the truth: if you eat a lot of junk food, you are going to break out.  Healthy food = healthy skin.  For a daily dose of info, you can sign up for her super fun and informative newsletter “The Daily Glow” HERE.

9) Get some exercise… ANY exercise.  Even if it’s going for a brisk walk to the liquor store, you really got to move your ass or the blood flow isn’t going to get up to your face.  Don’t overdo your workout, however, because that can actually stress your skin!  SEX is great for your skin, BTW.  Sends all kinds of lovely endorphins and even helps prevent skin wrinkling!

10) Here is my new BIG SECRET: The NUFACE micro current facial toning device.  This little machine helps tighten your skin while sending your very expensive serum deeper into your derma.  The founder is a cancer survivor and has partnered with the cancer organization “Look Good Feel Better”  to help promote positivity when fighting the disease.  I can’t recommend this little monster enough.  If used as directed, it can really help you if you are dealing with aging skin. I even use it swiftly in the morning to push my serum in a little deeper before putting on my moisturizer.

So there you have it.  10 of my “MUST DO’s” for how to keep your skin looking great.  Bottom line, it’s what INSIDE matters most, and keeping a positive attitude about what God gave ya.

Wishing you a BEAUTIFUL day….

xoxo

Cady

 

 

 

 

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Spring Color

 

I was reading Dr Jessica Wu’s daily newsletter, the Daily Glow, when I ran across a recommendation for Aerin Lauder’s makeup brushes.  I just had to take a look, as my mother used to use Estee Lauder religiously.

I really love her packaging.  So pretty and classic.  Her spring colors are just lovely.  Check out the illuminating powder.  Such a pretty floral design!

Aerin Spring Color | Estée Lauder Official Site — Estée Lauder Official Site.

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