This was a post I wrote for my blog called “Confessions of a Mad Soap Star.” I thought it was particularly pertinent to this time, as we are in the process of choosing leaders, not just in politics but on many stages. Some of these “dreams” have been met, but not others, and certainly it all bares repeating and remembering that bias existed and in some places continues to exist against those who are of the feminine persuasion.
I dream of a day when a woman isn’t called a lesbian (in a demeaning way) because she has short hair.
I dream of a day women stop going along with and making excuses for men making sexually inappropriate conversation in the workplace.
I dream of a day when a successful woman in power isn’t thought to have slept her way there.
I dream of a day when wearing high heels at work is considered a health risk and deemed unsafe and illegal.
I dream of a day when women are not subconsciously competitive and judgmental of one another.
I dream of a day when no woman is afraid to speak her mind.
I dream of a day when a woman stops taking responsibility for her man’s mistakes.
I dream of a day when women aren’t called ‘bitches’ because they are strong and smart.
I dream of a day when no means no, and we respect a woman for saying it.
I dream of a day when women are so confident they make no excuses for being single.
I dream of a day when it is outrageous to everyone that the government is involved in a woman’s right to choose.
I dream of a day when we can have a woman as president and no one cares about her weight or her sex life.
I dream of a day when not one woman envies another woman who is far too thin for her own health.
I dream of a day when a woman doesn’t secretly feel guilty because she makes more money than some men.
I dream of a day when a woman doesn’t think she is unfeminine because she has a tough job.
Someday these things may come to pass. But they only will if we ‘out’ certain behaviors we have come to accept as normal, and no longer cooperate with stigmas and prejudices that are ultimately disempowering all of us.
I believe in you. I believe in us. I know we can make a better world, one day at a time, one woman at a time, because we are the Mothers of the future, and entitled to be the leaders of the future. If not now, when? If not us, whom?